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Walter Bethel

02/28/1937 - 06/22/2024

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Obituary For Walter Bethel

Born on February 28, 1937, Walter Bethel was the son of Thomas Bethel and Alveria Bethel nee Barlett. When Walter was three, Mr. Bethel sailed off, and he did not see his father again until 1967 when he was thirty. Grandma was an illiterate Black woman with two small sons in the 1940s. My cousin Daniel told me that Grandma worked in a laundry, folding clothes. We can only imagine what life was like for my dad and his brother, Thomas.

Dad did not speak much about his childhood in Brownsville, Brooklyn. Dad went through the New York public school system. In 1956, Walter `graduated from the High School of Fashion Industries, where he learned tailoring.

Grandma raised her sons to be Catholic. When he was 12, Walter accepted Jesus at what he called a “little Jewish Mission. “ Dad joined Eastern Baptist Church and eventually became a lay leader in for the teen group. It was there that he met Alvina Mae Fleming, whom he married on September 15, 1962.

Their pastor knew the officer at the Bedford Temple Salvation Army in Brooklyn, NY and eventually, they began teaching Sunday School there in the afternoon. They came to the attention of the Divisional Youth Secretary who offered them a position as Corps helpers at the Stapleton Staten Island Corps where they became soldiers. In the midst of this, in 1966, their first child, Dorcas Jeanine Bethel, was born.

They entered the School for Officer Training in September 1968 in the Undaunted Session when the school was in the Bronx. In June 1970, Lts. Walter and Alvina Mae were assigned to an outpost in Arlington Heights, PA. At that time, their first son, Damon Walter Bethel was born in December 1970

In 1972 they moved to Homewood-Brushton Corps in Pittsburgh where their third child, David Michael Bethel was born. In 1974 their fourth child, Daniel Allen Bethel was born. The couple became Captains in Homewood-Brushton and spent eight years there before moving to the Pittsburgh Westside Salvation Army where they served for two years.

In 1981 Walter and Alvina Mae were transferred to the Bushwick Corps in Brooklyn, NY. In 1984 they moved to the Philadelphia Germantown Avenue Corps. In 1990 Majors Bethel moved to the Miles Park Corps in Cleveland OH, the oldest Black Corps in the United States.

Majors Walter and Alvina Mae were moved to Boston South End and later to Boston Harbor Light from where they retired 22 years ago, moving to Dover. DE. For the first 12 years of their retirement, Walter and Alvina Mae volunteered once a week at the Wilmington, DE preschool and they also taught a Bible Class for senior citizens. Walter taught a Sunday School class, volunteered at the feeding program, and visited hospitals and nursing Homes for the League of Mercy.

On Saturday, June 22, 20234 Walter Bethel was Promoted to Glory. He was predeceased by his son Damon Walter Bethel and his wife Alvina Mae who was promoted last August. He leaves his daughter Dorcas Bethel, son, David Bethel and daughter-in-law Cindy, son Daniel Allen Bethel and daughter-in-law Sarah Bethel, daughter-in-law Allison Bethel, Damon Bethel’s wife, sister-in-law Reverend Marietta Alcide, sister-in-law Marsha Fleming, sister-in-law Dominique Riddick and brother-in-law Steven Riddick, eleven grandchildren: Naomi, Donovan, Jordan Santiago, Maya, Aaron, Isaiah, Kimberly, Kayla, Wiliam, Sophia, and Damon Jr. and a host of nieces, nephews, great nieces, great nephews, and 4 great-grandchildren by marriage.

Services

6 Jul

Visitation

10:00 AM - 11:00 AM

Bennie Smith Funeral Home of Delaware (Dover) 717 W Division Street Dover, DE 19904 Get Directions »
6 Jul

Funeral Service

11:00 AM

Bennie Smith Funeral Home of Delaware (Dover) 717 W Division Street Dover, DE 19904 Get Directions »
8 Jul

Interment

11:00 AM

Delaware Veterans Memorial Cemetery (Millsboro DE) 26669 Patriots Way Millsboro, DE 19966 Get Directions »
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Flowers create a background of warmth and beauty which adds to the dignity and consolation of the funeral service. "Necessary" may not be the right word; but there's no doubt flowers at a funeral or other end-of-life ceremony serve many valuable purposes including a means of a visual expression of sympathy, love and respect or a means of lending support.

What's involved in preparing the body for viewing at a visitation or funeral?

The preparation of the deceased can involve a number of different tasks performed by trained and licensed embalmer and restorative artists. Without going into too much detail; the body is temporarily preserved by embalming, refrigeration, or a combination of the two. It is washed, dressed and otherwise groomed; then placed in the chosen casket for viewing. Should you wish to know more about the process, contact us. There are also many excellent articles online describing the process in greater detail.

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Human beings are interesting creatures: sometimes we need to see in order to truly believe. It's a way of confirming the fact that, indeed, this individual is dead; but it's also an opportunity to say your "good-byes". You may find it a cathartic time where you can quietly share a long-held secret, let go of any anger or resentment, and otherwise come to terms with their death.

How can I best prepare my children to attend a funeral?

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What is a celebrant?

The Celebrant Foundation and Institute define celebrants as "trained professionals who believe in the power and effectiveness of ceremony and ritual to serve basic needs of society and the individual. The Celebrant's mission is to help the client create a ceremony that reflects his or her beliefs, philosophy of life, and personality." A life-cycle celebrant is especially valuable when a family has no religious affiliations or ties to a clergy person or minister who can officiate the funeral service, but involving a celebrant in the funeral planning process has been found to enhance the funeral experience for all concerned. "The Celebrant comes to the table with no agenda," shares the Institute's website, "and no preconceived notion of what the ceremony should or must look like. Instead, through careful interviewing, the Celebrant elicits what is meaningful for each client." If you think hiring a celebrant is the right for your family's situation, contact us for more details.

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Must I wear black to the funeral ceremony?

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