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John William Jefferson, Sr.

02/06/1935 - 03/30/2024


Obituary For John William Jefferson, Sr.

Mr. John William Jefferson, Sr. was a beloved husband, father, grandfather, great grandfather, uncle, and friend to many who loved and cherished him. Mr. Jefferson passed away on Saturday, March 30, 2024. He was 89 years old. Mr. Jefferson was born in Danieltown, Virginia on February 6, 1935, to the late Mr. John Henry and Mattie Sue Jefferson. At age 13, William was lovingly sent with a family member to relocate in Delaware, where he lived until his death.

BJ’s work spanned from the Selbyville Lumber Yard, bartending, and ended his work career as the supervisor for the City of Rehoboth Beach Maintenance Department, where he worked for more than 25 years before retiring.

William had many passions and hobbies. He was an avid baseball player and enjoyed watching it as well. He often took his young children to Philadelphia to watch the major league games. Oldies but goodies music was a favorite to him. He was known for making 8-track tapes for many people in the community and known as the local DJ. When he was relaxing at home, William would spend hours watching old westerns alone or with loved ones. He took great pride in his carpentry work, to which those skills were highly requested by the Mayor of the City of Rehoboth Beach.

William was a storyteller and his family and friends enjoyed listening to his stories. He was told he should write a book so those stories would be shared by generations. Other passions of his were fishing with family and friends, capturing moments through picture taking and dice rolling on the “corner.”

William “BJ” Jefferson is gone, but never to be forgotten. He will remain in the hearts and minds of those who loved, respected and cherished him.

In addition to his parents, William was preceded in death by his sister, Sally V. Jefferson-Speight; son, James Allen, Sr.; daughter, Andrena "Pip" Knight; and his special niece, Lorretta S. Banks.

William is survived by his loving wife, Mrs. Nancy Jefferson. Left to cherish his loving memories are his children, Perry McCray (Christine), Paul Allen (Regina), Eric Brown (Margaret), Derwin Brown (Shirley), Tania E. Brown, Jeremy Miller-Williams (Al), John “Duke” Jefferson, Jr., Arsemus “A.J." Brown, Keenan A. Brown, Ashley L. Knight, and Kelsey Jefferson. Additionally, he was an adoring stepfather to C.J. Frankie, Gordy, and Kasey.

He was showered in love by his 21 grandchildren; and a host of great-grandchildren, nieces, nephews and special friends.

Lovingly submitted, The Family


13 Apr


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  • 04/08/2024

    I forever greatful that I got to know you and I will always cherish the memories that I have and will continue to carry in my heart the love and strength you shared and had . Thank you for everything. You will be missed as much as you were loved , you were a true legend and left a big story to be told . R.I.P.

  • 04/08/2024

  • 04/07/2024

    We lost a wonderful man. He was a great pop pop! Always high spirited and so kind. He would give the shirt off his back for anybody. Love you pop pop! You will forever be missed

  • 04/06/2024

    To my niece Ashley Knight and Family May God comfort you during this period of bereavement know that your Uncle Randy and auntie Michelle are praying for your strength God loves you

  • 04/06/2024

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