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Garland R. Ayers

06/02/1964 - 03/26/2024

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Obituary For Garland R. Ayers

Garland R. Ayers, fondly known as "Big Daddy", peacefully departed this life on Tuesday, March 26, 2024, at his residence in Milton, Delaware. He was born on June 2, 1964, in Painter, Virginia, in the infamous pink house (Momma’s House), to the late Garland and Magdalene (Ayers) Brisco.

Garland’s early education began in Accomack County, Virginia, before the family relocated to Lewes, Delaware. He graduated from Cape Henlopen High School in 1984.

For 35 years, Garland was employed as a truck driver for the City of Lewes until his retirement in 2019. Outside of work, he found great joy in hunting, killing hogs, crafting his sausage, and cherishing moments with his great-niece, Royalty.

From an early age, Garland had a passion for sports. He had two favorite NFL teams, the Miami Dolphins and the Pittsburg Steelers, and an “intense dislike” for the Dallas Cowboys!

Garland was known for his selflessness; always extending a helping hand to family and friends. His legacy is generosity, kindness, and steadfast devotion to those he cherished.

Surviving Garland are his wife of 32 years, Brenda (Wynder) Ayers, and their two children, Deion Ayers of Milton, DE, and Veronica Ayers of Milford, DE. He is also survived by two brothers, Albert Ayres of Millsboro, DE, and Calvin Matthews of Accomac, VA; one sister, Melissa Collins (Vance) of Georgetown, DE; three sisters-in-law, Joyce Sessoms (Furman) of Laurel, DE, Jacqueline Weathersby (David) of Milton, DE and Annette Williams (Curtis) of Bridgeville, DE; two brothers-in-law, Luther Barnes of Stuart, VA and Kevin Barnes of Wilmington DE. Additionally, he leaves behind four nieces, Monica Ayres, Cheryl Flowers, Kenya Wynder, and his adopted niece, Mya Maull, as well as six nephews, Albert Ayres, Jr., Vance Mann, Bryan Wynder, David Weathersby, Gary Flowers, and Kutrell Wynder. His great niece, Royalty, held a special place in his heart as his number-one fan. Garland also leaves behind numerous loving family members, including his first cousins, who were akin to brothers and sisters to him. Among his cherished friends were Andrew Knox, Calvin Harmon, Tony Reese, Troy Maull, Jr., John Hall, Joe Snead, "The Crew," and many others.

Garland will be dearly missed by all who had the privilege of knowing him.

Services

6 Apr

Visitation

10:00 AM - 12:00 PM

St. John Second Baptist 26602 Mt. Joy Road Millsboro, DE 19966 Get Directions »
6 Apr

Funeral Service

12:00 PM

St. John Second Baptist 26602 Mt. Joy Road Millsboro, DE 19966 Get Directions »
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  • 04/05/2024

    Brenda, your friends and classmates from Cape Henlopen High School Class of 1974 send their deepest sympathy and most sincere condolences at this time of sadness and sorry. Please know that you and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. CHHS C-74 Classmates

  • 04/03/2024

    To the family, I'm truly sorry for your loss. Praying that the Lord will comfort and keep with His Love in the days and nights to come. I thank God for allowing me to be able to spend time with him. Brother you're be forever missed. Love John "Sonny" Sheppard.

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  • 04/01/2024

    My prayers and Condolences go out to the Ayers family. From Patrick Shields and the Shields family. A childhood friend . RIP 🙏

  • 04/01/2024

    My condolences and prayers to the families

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  • 03/30/2024

    Sending Love ❤️ To The Ayers Family 🙏🏾❤️🙏🏾Brothers Group

  • 03/28/2024

    Our condolences for your beloved family member The Murphy Family

  • 03/28/2024

    I will truly miss you my cousin not a time you would call me to get something from that you needed to know will miss you much an hearing from you with all my love an broking heart

  • 03/28/2024

    Sending condolences and prayers during the loss of your love one or brother! Love the Boldens

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    Patrick Shields sent Mixed Spray for Garland R. Ayers - 04/01/2024

    My Condolences and prayers go out to the Ayers family. I met Garland through his Late Grandfather Mr. Ike and we became childhood friends. RIP 🙏. My friend Garland from your friend Patrick Shields.

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